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Great [Positive] Expectations

I walk around pretty much constantly making mental notes in my head of things I want to write, say, or just a different way to express my current state of mind. Basically, I’m always swirling some type of thought in my head. There have been many things I wanted to write lately but it just seemed like there wouldn’t be enough to say. Anyway, something that’s been on my heart lately is this whole “body shaming” pandemic. So many people have opinions about bodies, perfect and not. Everyone’s definition is different, too. What really is “skinny”, “curvy”, “fit”, “toned”, or “perfect”? What is that? It could be different for everyone and probably is! (SIDE BAR: saying ‘strong is the new skinny’ or ‘skinny girls look good in clothes, but fit girls look good naked’…IS BODY SHAMING.)

I’ve noticed a trend lately of younger celebrities speaking out against body shaming when they are criticized by the media for not having the “ideal” body (whatever that is.) I really love this because these young women are my age. I’m currently 20, I’ll be 21 in May and technically, I still consider myself still in transition to a “womanly body”. At this age, I still feel like only certain part of me have changed and not me as a whole. This is a HIGHLY difficult for me. Women’s and girl’s bodies are drastically different. Women do have more “curves” if you will, and younger girls tend to have less fat. Understandable, women have children and their body is preparing and changing for that purpose. I feel like I’m constantly changing. Most people probably don’t notice a daily (very minor) changes in their bodies, but I do ( I factor in the eating disorder for this). Either that or I am very aware and alert to my body.

I started this transition into a new body type in the second semester of my senior year in high school (so 2012). This was just before I entered college and began into the darker journey with E.D. I began to notice changes in my hip area and areas under my arms that were closer to my chest. I literally FREAKED. I changed the way I ate, worked out, and thought about myself. Thoughts became more destructive and this was also the time I made the switch from drinking regular soda to drinking diet soda. The “changes” happened for a while and then panned out………….until just a couple of weeks ago. My body took it upon itself to reorganize my..chest..area.

Nobody else would’ve noticed, but I did. Normal people probably don’t find an issue here, but for someone who is consumed with thoughts over how to control their body and obsess over what goes into me, it would’ve been nice to be consulted about the upcoming changes. But that’s not how things work; which is why today when I read about celebrities standing up for positive body image, I was excited. These girls are my age and their bodies are probably going through similar transitions to mine. I can relate to them because it seems like they are almost just like me.

We all know about Jennifer Lawrence and how she is always an advocate for positive body image, but what about some lesser known young women?

Selena Gomez: She was recently scrutinized by the media for not being “toned” and was called “fat” like she “let herself go” or something.

After that, she took to Instagram and posted a photo with the caption, “I love being happy with me y’all #theresmoretolove.”

Selena Gomez Says She's Happy With Her New Curves: "There's More to Love"  Selena Gomez, Instagram  http://www.eonline.com/news/647440/selena-gomez-says-she-s-happy-with-her-new-curves-there-s-more-to-love

Emma Watson: She is a positive role model for women everywhere.

http://www.examiner.com/article/emma-watson-talks-body-image-it-took-me-a-long-time-to-accept-my-shape

She states that “it’s ridiculous that [being comfortable with yourself] seems such an unrealistic goal.”

 “We have these unbelievably high expectations of ourselves, when actually we’re human beings and out bodies have a function.

“I keep telling myself that I’m a human being, an imperfect human being who’s not made to look like a doll.”

Emma Brings Her Bikini Body and Her New Man to the Beach

Your Guide to Looking This Good at Graduation

Zooey Deschanel:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/04/zooey-deschanel-body-image-dont-need-anorexic-successful_n_2409327.html

She states that some of the women she admired were, “Debra Winger, Diane Keaton, Meryl Streep—were all beautiful and thin, but not too thin.” She then goes on to say that there are many actresses who seem like they are skinny but it’s an unhealthy type of skinny.

“I’m a very small person, and if I lost 15 pounds, I’d look like them; it’s scary. For young girls, what does that say? You need to look this way to be successful? That’s not true. You do not need to look or be anorexic to be successful in Hollywood. The range of what’s acceptable is larger than what people believe.”

"New Girl" style.  Totally getting this outfit!

Her point is, you DON’T have to be super thin to be successful. It does not define you!!!!

My whole point is, is I’m not [we are not] alone in the battle. Not everyone has “perfect body” expectations. There are people out there [women] who genuinely want other women to be happy, proud and confident in their own skin.

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The Lucky One

In today’s world, there are all sorts of ways to be influenced by some type of media. From television, books, movies, radio, magazines, they can even start to creep into your reams. Not that all forms of media are negative influences, often times they are encouraging, positive and uplifting. But, are those the images we remember? Are they the ones we dream of being or strive so fiercely to be like? More often times that not, its not those filled with a positive images that we remember, but the negative that get drilled and cemented in our brains.

For me, I have a few examples (I’ll explain those after). Recently, KIA Motors has their commercial for the KIA Soul with the hamsters being their spokesperson.  When the commercial initially came out, the hamsters were portrayed to look like normal with a healthy body size, and regular clothes; they resembled normal hamster-well, if your hamsters wear clothes that is.

Not too long after, a new commercial emerged. In this depiction, the hamsters are show changing their eating habits, lifting weights, working out, and changed the way they dressed. By the end of the commercial, the hamsters exit a limo showing their new thin bodies, new wardrobe and looking polished, and now everyone wants a picture with them. You’ve just got to be lucky enough to get accepted.

Now, not that there is ANYTHING against working out or eating healthy! That’s just simply called taking care of yourself!! The issue I have with this is that to me it seems like the hamsters before their transformation were not as well liked. It almost seems like they are saying you have to “be thinner” in order to be socially acceptable and have friends. Not that nobody liked the hamsters before, but they seem to become almost overnight sensations and claim more fame with their polished look. I just think that this commercial sends a very negative message. It’s not about accepting who you are. It’s all about changing your design to be accepted by the public, and be with the  trends.

Maybe I’m just blowing it out of proportion. It could be a depiction of how the car has changed. I don’t know. From where I stand, I just feel like it delivers a message of changing who you are, or that you need to be thinner.

About those other examples. I have a couple of celebrities in mind that every time I see their picture in the media I want to be like them. However, after I stare at them for a few moments, I step back and have to mentally tell myself that I am me, I’m not them, and I’m exactly how I’m suppose to be.

#miley #cyrus

Not the best influence on many levels! But her body is tiny.

 

Nina Dobrev

 

amazing dress  Black Dress #2dayslook #sasssjane #BlackDress www.2dayslook.com

As much as I love both Nina Dobrev and Taylor Swift, they are also kind of triggers.

 

one of my favorite pictures of her

Shailene Woodley. She is beautiful

Emma Watson

Kacey Musgraves

Red Carpet Arrivals for the Oscar's: Jennifer Lawrence in Dior Haute Couture, I just had to repin because she's amazing...

I know that I included Taylor Swift again; she’s also an inspiration. Shailene Woodley, Emma Watson, Kacey Musgraves, and Jennifer Lawrence are all positive images for me. They tend to make me feel good about myself because they are comfortable in their own skin.

Celebrate Every Body

“If your thighs touch, you’re living life wrong.”

“You just aren’t skinny enough if you don’t have the gap.”

 

Blah, blah, blah…basically, you’re stupid and overweight (well according to these self proclaimed “experts”.) If you haven’t achieved this gap, you are basically inferior to all other girls who have. (Riiiight.  NOT!) I don’t believe that for one second because a thigh gap is virtually impossible to achieve. I’m pretty sure your thighs are suppose to touch. But then again, I’m an expert on nothing.

So, what is the thigh gap you ask?

THIGH GAP: It appears in women and girls who are very thin while also having very thin thighs.

This phenomenon is absolutely fine, of you just came by it naturally. However, lately it has become a body obsession epidemic because it’s being promoted as healthy and pretty. The issue is, that this gap isn’t achievable for all  women. Women with a different bone structure or genetic makeup aren’t going to be able to have one. If a girl has narrow hips or muscle definition they will also not be able to obtain this new found obsession. That doesn’t stop any pages like on twitter, tumblr, blogs or any other social media sight from promoting the potentially harmful idea.

Many of the pro-ana blogs or social media pages promote not eating at all, or cutting certain foods out of diets, or just odd food rituals all together. What this thigh gap phenomenon is teaching and promoting to girls is that, you aren’t prefect exactly how you are and that you need to change yourself in order to be deemed pretty or have the love and affection of someone else. These type of thoughts are potentially harmful because it puts girls on the path the negative body image, unhappiness or even eating disorders because it says no matter what you have to do to be as skinny as possible, do it.

I mean, no wonder to many girls (guys as well), have body image issues. There are so many diet promotions or air brushed images all over magazine covers;  even restaurants are starting to have a hand in this. First let’s take the old, tired out Victoria’s Secret magazine. They display women in their bras, underwear, swimsuits and pajamas and usually these women are airbrushed or “fixed” in some manner. There was just a controversy over this involving Jennifer Lawrence. Almost everything about her is changed when it didn’t need to be altered at all because J-Law is BEAUTIFUL!

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Lastly, let’s take my personal favorite restaurant (GIANT joke. I’m totally kidding. Not serious at all.) Twin Peaks. No wonder so many girls have body image issues. Now I’m not knocking the ladies that work there!! Those are all respectable women and if they are comfortable working there, that’s perfectly fine! But personally, I feel that restaurants that require that type of uniform are sending a message that you have to fit this certain body type in order to be desirable and sell meals. And maybe that isn’t the case, but I think there is a lot of pressure on girls to want to be able to fit into that sort of outfit and rock it.

Basketball Web Image

I personally believe that we need to be teaching girls that no matter how skinny they are or how small their thighs are that it doesn’t define them! We are so much more than our bodies. We are our personalities, our minds, our hearts, our sense of humor and our work ethic. Nobody can put a diet on those things. And really, those type of things make you who you truly are.